Heavy Lifting: Tired of Carrying Around that Load?

In my counseling practice, the most common statement that students make is "My life would be perfect if would change ."

They come to me exhausted, frustrated and downright angry because everything they've done to force the other to make changes has failed, and yet harbor guilt because they care for and

ABC's of Healthy Relationships: B

BalanceMany couples have an erroneous belief that doing everything together equals a healthy relationship.  They spend every waking moment together. They do everything together.  They're inseparable and become glued at the hip.  And then the inevitable happens....They slowly begin to let go of their friends, abandon their dreams, and eventually lose their identities....and resentment of each

Interpersonal Abuse: You Don't Have to Be Hit to Be Hurt

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Relationships.  A popular subject of discussion with afternoon television-pseudo-psychologists, talk shows, movies and countless self-help books.  Relationships can be all-at-once exhilarating, frustrating, comforting and painful...reason being that we make these ties with others who are, like us, always in a process of changing and growing.  What is of particular

Personal Space Etiquette

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Ever been annoyed when standing next to someone who doesn’t understand the concept of personal space? There you are standing, minding your own business and next thing you know, you feel someone’s breath on the back of your neck or they're standing so close you can tell what they ate for lunch.  Don't you wish you could just say, "Hey, buddy, you need to back the [bleep

Strong Fences Make Good Neighbors: Building Personal Boundaries

"I just don't understand why my boyfriend treats me like dirt!  I know he has someone else on the side, but there's nothing I can do about it..." 
"I hate it when my roommate takes something from my room without asking...how do I get her to stop (or do I need to move out)?"
"When my girlfriend gets mad, she gets in my face and screams and calls me every name in the book.  Then she trashes me