What's the Magic Word?

One of my favorite pasttimes is people-watching.  I like sitting in the Commons or at the mall and just watch how people behave when they are alone and how they interact and treat others.  I find behavior fascinating, and I learn something new about human nature every day.  Most of the time my faith in the kindness in people is strengthened; other times, not so much.


In a previous blog entry, I

ABC's of Healthy Relationships: C




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Candlelit dinnersThis can’t be said too many times.  Healthy relationships use the basics of romance to thrive.  Get out a candle and eat together without the kids.  Dinner doesn’t have to take place in a five-star restaurant, and doesn’t have to be fancy—it can be meatloaf or spaghetti at the kitchen table—but the point of having candles is

Assertive or Aggressive...which type are you?

Many people confuse being assertive with being aggressive.  For the record, these are two completely different behaviors--one promotes positive, healthy self-esteem and mutually satisfying relationships, while the other promotes conflict and difficult relationships and destroys one's sense of well-being.  Being assertive demonstrates confidence and maturity; aggressiveness indicates insecurity

Improving Your Communication Skills

In my line of work, having well-developed communication skills is a requirement.  Counselors are trained to be active listeners, reiterate what we hear the other person has said, and to respond without giving advice or bringing our opinions or feelings into it.

The result is open, mutually-respectful communication where both people feel heard and understood, and a positive rapport develops